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[1: 401 of 10,000] When You Fall in the Trap of Listening Too Much Criticism – Remember This Tale

In Article on October 13, 2011 at 11:25 AM

You probably heard the old tale about the “The Miller, His Son and The Donkey” but if not here is a quick summary:

  1. The miller together with his son traveled to the market to sell their donkey.
  2. On their journey, they decided to walk beside the donkey and they were criticized for not riding it.
  3. When the father gets on, he is mocked for making his young son walk.
  4. When the son rides, he is blamed for making his elderly father on foot.
  5. When both ride, they are berated for overburdening the animal.
  6. Finally, the father and son carried the donkey while passing a bridge, when people saw this they laughed and the commotion scared the donkey that eventually leads its masters to drop it off the bridge and it died.

Moral of the story:

  • If the father and son are confident and knowledgeable on their decisions, they will travel the way they see fit for themselves. They could have done every single actions from Nos. 2 to 6 depending on the circumstance and considering the weight and height of everyone (including the donkey, some donkey is capable to carry 249 lbs.); but not because they listen to what others say.
  • It is good to listen for others’ remarks but it takes wisdom on our end to discern if it is valid to carry on the unsolicited advice.
  • People depending on their own experience and perception will make their snotty remarks that can hurt us if we let them.
  • We cannot be a people pleaser but we must be honest and brave to enlighten the people around us. I am currently reading the book written by US President Barack Obama “Dreams From My Father” and his father displayed a perfect example on just how we can change a person’s point of view, here is an excerpt from pages 10-11:

I (Barack Obama) can recall only one story that dealt explicitly with the subject of race. According to the story, after long hours of study, my father (first African student in University of Hawaii around late 1950s) had joined my grandfather (white American) and several other friends at a local Waikiki bar. Everyone was in a festive mood, eating and drinking to the sounds of a slack-key guitar; when a white man abruptly announced to the bartender; loudly enough for everyone to hear, that he shouldn’t have to drink good liquor “next to a nigger.” The room fell quiet and people turned to my father, expecting a fight. Instead, my father stood up, walked over to the man, smiled, and proceeded to lecture him about the folly of bigotry, the promise of the American dream, and the universal rights of man. “This fella felt so bad when Barack was finished,” Gramps would say, “that he reached into his pocket and gave Barack a hundred dollars on the spot. Paid for all our drinks and puu-puus for the rest of the night – and your dad’s rent for the rest of the month.”

By the time I was a teenager, I’d grown skeptical of this story’s veracity and had set it aside with the rest. Until I received a phone call, many years later, from a Japanese-American man who said he had been my father’s classmate in Hawaii. He was very gracious, a bit embarrassed by his own impulsiveness; he explained that he had seen an interview of me in his local paper and that the sight of my father’s name had brought back a rush of memories. Then, during the course of our conversation, he repeated the same story that my grandfather had told, about the white man who had tried to purchase my father’s forgiveness. I’ll never forget that,” the man said to me and in his voice I heard the same note that I’d heard from Gramps, that note of disbelief – and hope.

  1. “You cannot hope to please all. Don’t try.” This comment in the beautiful picture, which you included, says it all.

    About the subject of race, it’s interesting to see that race did not seem to be of any significance. once the father started talking in a sensible way, which impressed that white man.

    • Really a great story about the race; there are truly so many people who aren’t informed with better facts and feelings that their perception could totally change.

  2. I love the tale! Thanks for sharing the story with us 🙂

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