Don’t judge. Don’t be a nasty critique. Don’t speak your opinion in an unloving way. Don’t be a know-it-all and step on someone’s pride, dignity, or shattering an already a broken heart.
When you are asked to state your thoughts, do it in the most tactful way. Make sure to remove subjective judgement and personal experience. You are not the topic, so don’t include your own hurt and personal pain in the scene. Speak with a kind tone and speak in person instead of SMS or email; that way you are more careful with your words and your sincerity will be felt. Speaking your mind to guide someone you love may not always be appreciated though, but if relationship is meant to be worked out, then be truthful and give a proper space.
We are not supposed to judge because everybody has their own journey and their own time to cope. I love how Doe Zantamata eloquently put it on words, “It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judgment we separate. Through understanding we grow.”