I have two younger sisters who don’t always admire authority, well I don’t blame them especially if the authority figure that stood in front of them isn’t inspiring and respectful. I am the authority figure at home especially when our parents passed away.
I am the eldest and I feel like I always have the responsibility to do the right thing, to set an example, to be their role model, and because I am not perfect, my then weaknesses of getting irritable too quickly, raising my voice, and throwing hurtful words at them were inevitable. The surprising part is, even if I knew my intentions were good scolding them, I feel a lot hurt for shouting at them, I used to cry so hard after lecturing them on what’s the best thing to do (the delivery was excruciatingly awful).
Since then I improved and became cool like a cucumber. The best way to deliver a message is not in harsh tone but in loving way. It is even better that they got to reiterate and voice it out themselves because they knew what they did. I love my sisters and as much as I want to protect them, I have to tell them the truth when it was their fault; or they tell me my shortcoming too when I’m screwing things up.
May we all live peacefully and loving one another. Blessings to all of you!