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[1: 1,976 of 10,000] The Greatest Positive Distraction In Life

In Article on February 7, 2020 at 6:33 AM

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If I am weary waiting for a man to send me a message, agitating for a someone or something to happen… I have to push myself to do a “positive” distraction to not lose my mind.

Before I go for the good distraction, I should confess my current rabbit hole mood and that’s watching Tarot Card reading for my horoscope in YouTube, geez too excited to find out about the future! Or starting a whole new series to watch in Netflix, it’s a whole new commitment so I better check how many episodes and how long each episode is.

Now the good stuff, there’s one key ingredient of what’s in the greatest distraction and it should be doing something that I love or similar to what am truly passionate about. Anything that brings me joy without guilt but peace are key. For instance, writing a blog, reading a helpful book for my learning or growth or entertainment, or going out to connect with other people. These distractions make me forget time and draws me into a flow.

What’s your positive distraction?

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[1: 1,975 of 10,000] Huh! Childhood Hurt?

In Journal on February 5, 2020 at 11:58 PM

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My inner self knew that I am complete and I am loved but the fact that I have never let romance into my life, I am seriously unconsciously blocking it. I hired someone to coach me, well, anytime I needed to really learn and overcome something I sign up to work with the right person.

My parents never gave me up, nothing like that, but when my sister was born just eleven months after I was born, my grandmother (mom’s mom) happily volunteered to take care of me until she passed away and I started going to school so I moved back home.

Here’s the weird part, when I was asked to go back to my childhood memories, the moment when I started to feel unlove, I couldn’t remember it and I remember a business email I received even two or three years back. I can only rely on stories and then suddenly I started crying and my heart is breaking. It made sense that I got to be carefree and independent, believing that people leave because they die so there’s no point of investing on love and life, and the little me felt left out by my parents.

I am finally strong today to tell young Yor that I am here to love her unconditionally, she doesn’t need to be alone anymore, and we can make the best of life and not believing death is the answer to end a pain and get away from a broken heart. I am healing and for that I am grateful.

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[1: 1,974 of 10,000] I Signed Up For Tinder, Again

In Article on February 1, 2020 at 7:08 PM

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Last December 15, 2019, for the third time, I signed up for Tinder. Again, not because I was out of a relationship, but because I was scared to be in one. If I am not playing my card right, I’ll be the female version of the 40-year-old virgin this year.

First time I signed up in Dubai years ago, I didn’t like the choices of men, so after a day, I deleted the account. The second time I signed up in Dubai, I saw someone I knew, so without a second thought, I immediately deleted my account. Now, the third time and sign up while I was in Copenhagen for vacation, I am finally giving love a chance and determined to let love simmer into my life. Also, Copenhagen is filled with good looking people who have great taste in creating artful things, I thought if I will look for a mate, it’s a place that’s a viable place with a great array of choices. Despite seeing two people I knew in the dating app when back home in Dubai, it wasn’t enough to scare me this time and so I hold on.

After 1 month, I stumble upon a guy that is potentially I want to love. Big word, right? He makes me laugh, he knows how to use the proper punctuation marks (oh I can’t emphasize enough how satisfying that is), and he answers all questions when we chat. It’s a pickle that there are that 5,598 kilometers distance between us but it’s just one plane ticket away if we really think it’s worth giving this possible connection a chance. The best part of all is he calms me down, I am a worrier and overthink a lot of things and him being attentive, insightful, and never fails to respond to my message… I mean I can honestly admit that I’m starting to like him. Will he be the reason why I would finally be deleting my Tinder account for good? I hope! xx

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[1: 1,973 of 10,000] Collaborating With My Mind

In Article on January 21, 2020 at 6:47 AM

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I have an AHA moment after listening to therapist Marisa Peer’s TEDxKCS talk called To reach beyond your limits by training your mind. It’s mind-blowing and let me break it down for you, one because I need to ingrain it in my mind so I can get what I want and two because you can use it to your favor.

The mind wants 4 things and if I know this then I can hack it into my advantage. My mind is my intellect and the monkey that occupies my wild imaginations, the incessant thought that creates scenes after scenes in my head and the worst part is when I even fall to believe a lie.

1: My mind does exactly what it thinks I want in my best interest. Hack: I have to be very clear to tell my mind what I really want. If I want to become a best-selling author, then I have to tell my mind that I am a best-selling author and write to finish the book. If I’m in the zone, I also attract the right people into my orbit. (Side note: I’m loving the word ‘orbit’ lately!)

2: My mind is hard-wired to move me towards pleasure and avoiding pain. Any successful endeavor requires putting work. The only time it doesn’t feel like hard work is if I like what I’m doing, but the reality is there’s work to be done. Hack: Condition myself to link that I have massive pleasure doing hard work. It feels awful to exercise but it’s the only way for my muscles to get healthy so I got to enjoy while exercising.

3: My mind response to 2 things that affect my feelings, (a) what I picture in my head and (b) the words that I say to myself. Hack: Picture that I am doing it and use words that are positive to me. Stop with the low vibration thoughts. I have a brilliant mind and I better use it positively.

4.  My mind is programmed to what’s familiar. Hack: Make the unfamiliar familiar especially my self-beliefs. Familiarize myself to love my self, my work, my life and are grateful to everything that’s happening to me. Unfamiliarize me from procrastination and not good enough thoughts, move those words out of my vocabulary.

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