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[1: 1,795 of 10,000] What Should We Do With Feedback?

In Article on November 7, 2016 at 12:00 AM

self-compassion

I heard Eva Longoria shared what she learned from Hillary Clinton about feedback and it’s absolutely a good one for us to reflect on and do, “Take criticism seriously but not personally.

We have to be honest, drop the assumptions and the arrogance, and explore if the criticism has really a merit and invites a room for improvement and greatness. Sometimes it is not simply wanting to achieve perfection but we have to acknowledge that a magnificent creation elicits pride, it inspires, and lasts a lifetime. If we are too close to our project, we tend to be blind and miss the flaws, and at this point a critical outsider eye would just be the right flash of genius that’s needed.

Another crucial ingredient is for us not to take it personally. It is painful to be judged especially if we know we’re human who have poured our heart out. But despite the brutality of reality, know that our very essence as a human will never be imperfect, believe that.

The kindest way that we can do to put off the fire of either depression or anger out from the criticism is forgiveness. If the delivery of the critic is harsh, let us forgive him. If we’ve truly made a mistake, let us forgive ourselves.

Then start again, with the focus and determination not to make the same mistake.

[1: 1,546 of 10,000] Born Too Late

In Article on August 2, 2015 at 11:42 AM

I was browsing Pinterest today and I saw this comic strip about a woman who was contemplating that she was born in the wrong era –

Comic Inspired

It is true that the perception of people change, the world’s circumstance change. If I am expanding more than just the body image judgment, I am grateful that right now I am not in a country with bomb dropping from the sky that would make me curl up inside my home, scared, and covering my ears.

Our judgment on others is usually the reflection of our own fears. How can we find pleasure to mock someone for something they are that we couldn’t possibly understand their inner struggle? Why do we need to be cruel on others as to ourselves? I am guilty of throwing my own judgment but now I am more concerned about what am I judging on my own self for such a merciless attack.

As a lesson learned from Eckhart Tolle on Awakening, I should not fight back to people who judge and attack me. Not really because I am also guilty but I shall remain present that what has happened in the past is past and what’s important is right now. I am grateful that right now, I forgive myself and I show more compassion to others that they are not aware of their actions and they couldn’t control to give in to their egos who feed on negativity. If I remain peaceful, my presence could radiate a good energy that may possibly awaken them if not maybe in due time.

Live right now. May we have the courage to make a world of encouragement for the better, for the best; and not be a coward to give in to the ego.

[1: 1,530 of 10,000] I Asked A Psychologist Where Is He From

In Journal on July 17, 2015 at 8:10 PM

Free Horses

I was impressed with a certain psychologist after watching him from a video. I reached him for an advice and in addition I asked where is he from. I am not sure if I was clear about my question but he didn’t answer about his country of origin. The curious in me searched the answer and found it.

It occurs to me that whether I know where is he from or not I still have the same respect. I sometimes assess a situation or a person based on the background that they’ve been, part of it is fascination and part of it is to make up a new understanding. Our past affects us and it’s a wonderful sight that we grow better, our best.

One day I am going to die. If the average life span is 80, I only have 45 years left. Will I live being too careful? Will I follow my dream? Will I continue to judge people or I will drop the labels all together and recognise that people need to be kinder and appreciate the beauty infront of me.

It is nice to be forgiving. I wanted so much to forget a part of my past but it kept coming out. When I couldn’t stay present, it disturbed me and then when I snap back to my very BEING, it doesn’t matter. My past is forcing me to relieve control and demanding so much of my faith that this life is worth my whole heart and spirit. It is beautiful beyond the fascades and crazy fears. I am simply grateful for the grace that I could stay in this moment and find joy even if I don’t understand everything.

[1: 1,478 of 10,000] Stop The Urge To Judge But If You Must

In Article on May 26, 2015 at 11:53 PM

Judge

Don’t judge. Don’t be a nasty critique. Don’t speak your opinion in an unloving way. Don’t be a know-it-all and step on someone’s pride, dignity, or shattering an already a broken heart.

When you are asked to state your thoughts, do it in the most tactful way. Make sure to remove subjective judgement and personal experience. You are not the topic, so don’t include your own hurt and personal pain in the scene. Speak with a kind tone and speak in person instead of SMS or email; that way you are more careful with your words and your sincerity will be felt. Speaking your mind to guide someone you love may not always be appreciated though, but if relationship is meant to be worked out, then be truthful and give a proper space.

We are not supposed to judge because everybody has their own journey and their own time to cope. I love how Doe Zantamata eloquently put it on words, “It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judgment we separate. Through understanding we grow.”