Yor Ryeter

Posts Tagged ‘Self Help’

[1: 1,902 of 10,000] Time Was My Kryptonite

In Article on February 17, 2018 at 3:36 PM

Kryptonite

My ego, the part of me that can constantly tell a story that I’m the best and worst – all for the sake to operate from fear instead of love, has obsession about time or age and it is dilapidating.

Some of my scared ego-talks:

  • I want to be the youngest member of this club because I am special.
  • I need to get that thing to elevate my status now.
  • I am too old to become famously rich.
  • I got white hairs… how do I expect to get a husband and raise children?
  • 38 and still an employee? (even hearing this in a snotty remark)
  • It will take time to learn and become an expert, how will I do school ‘again’ and still work to be a responsible adult and practical?
  • Your peers have achieved so much in their career (company owner / VPs) while you are still a manager.
  • You’re so slow.
  • What is the point of doing great? Are you intending to leave a legacy, but wait who do you think you are who is worth leaving a legacy? You are going to die one day, so again, what is the point of all these hard works?

So how do I calm my fearful ego that is a part of me and that I lovingly call my intellect that needs a leader?

  • I meditate and pray to calm my nerves. I don’t always get the answers when I meditate and pray, maybe I am not there yet, but the fact that I could become calm and not go to panic mode at all times that I even lose proper sleeps because I was paralyzed with the amount of goals I want to immediately achieve.
  • I forgive myself that I have so much eagerness and not capable to move a mountain yet. And then I do what I can that leads to my ultimate goal. It doesn’t matter if it takes time to learn; so instead I lean on my incremental growth every day.
  • Choose one battle at a time. Choose a team to help if it’s the additional ingredient of success. If I die before I achieve everything, I will be fine without regrets because I was able to accomplished some things.
  • Treat my journey as mine and not to compare myself with others. My own growth is my business and the key is my life is rooted with good intentions.
  • I enjoy the journey and celebrate the destination; and then I do it all over again with a new pursuit. If I wake up every morning, it means I have this moment to enjoy life, if a day turned out to be excruciating than I have hoped for, I could go to bed, release the past, and I will wake up the next morning again to have another clean slate.

What is your kryptonite and how do you overcome it?

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[1: 981 of 10,000] Be Your Favorite Heroes

In Article on April 5, 2013 at 12:00 AM

I want you to imagine your favorite hero or heroes. Do you have it? Bear with me with this simple exercise about courage and inspiration.

Iron Man & PepperMine is Iron Man and Pepper, I like both characters with these following qualities:

Tony Stark / Iron Man

  1. Overly confident who has the right to do so in my opinion anyway
  2. Genius
  3. Wealthy
  4. Impressively owns high tech gadgets
  5. Gorgeous
  6. Heart and Courage for true justice
  7. Get his hands dirty especially when building the suit or working at the lab

Pepper

  1. Smart
  2. Dignified
  3. Hot
  4. Caring
  5. Strong
  6. Responsible
  7. Fearless

It is fair that you may argue with my chosen heroes and their highly fanatic adjective attachments but why don’t you describe your own chosen hero. Got that written down?

Now imagine your fear or block or wall that hinders you to achieving your dream or desired freedom. Embody the qualities you just enumerated about your model, then act… The truth is, when you start facing and conquering your battle, you will win like your hero if you put your focus, energy, effort, and love into it. It is possible that you will fail but try again. It is possible that you may never win the battle but it will teach you a lesson for the mere fact of pursuing that would eventually lead you to a better place.

So, go be a HERO yourself!