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[1: 1,888 of 10,000] What My 37 Year Old Self Is Still Learning

In List on July 4, 2017 at 12:01 PM
  1. I do the work and the worry will dissipate.
  2. Do not stop until I finish the task to avoid procrastination. To have the discipline to focus on one task at a time because although multi-tasking can be done, I couldn’t depend on it resulting to a quality work.
  3. Mastery takes time; it takes repetition and doing it better than the last time, showing up, be creative to mix a new ingredient, and keep the burning passion alive.
  4. Who are you trying to please? Work that God is cheering on me, the God who loves me unconditionally and directs me to my best with my willingness. Listen to constructive criticism and forgive the wrong critiques.
  5. Make mistakes, laugh at them, be accountable, and learn not to repeat them. Don’t be too hard on myself because if tomorrow I wake up, it is for a reason.
  6. It’s not because it has always been done means it’s the right way. Life continues to evolve to a new height. I don’t need to expect myself to be married and have kids now; but I do need to work on building a business empire with my sisters.
  7. I know what makes me happy, gives me excitement, and joy. They are clues to MY path. I should do them more often even if it scares me, even if there’s a revolt going on inside of me, and make a mastery out of it. I must do this for me and the world will appreciate it that I did it with love.
  8. What breaks my heart points me to what I want this world to heal from. Put seeds in those areas and let it grow.
  9. Live a life with integrity. Honor my words and commitment. Show up to new things even if I am scared. Be the change I want to see. Leave this world better than I found it.
  10. Meaningful relationship will enrich my life and I have to make an effort to build them.
  11. Teach people how I want to be treated like setting the boundary and say yes if it’s a yes.
  12. Don’t judge people in cluster, judge based on personal contact. Don’t put the label before I have given myself a chance to know the person.
  13. I need to slow down, sleep well, eat right, exercise, and keep learning new things through books, podcast, videos, and going out there to live a life. I pray to talk to God to send my thoughts but it is through my quietness and meditation that He sends His.
  14. Simplify and stop buying stuffs that either get thrown or not used. Learn to be a minimalist.
  15. Of all my confusion and clutter, I withdraw them and surrender to the moment that I find peace and I am contented that I have one thing to be grateful for.

[1: 1,882 of 10,000] My Eulogy

In Journal on May 27, 2017 at 3:59 PM

Life

She grouped the clothes hangers with the same color and type, she donated extra $5 twice to a fund raising to round off the collection, but she was never diagnosed with OCD because she never get herself tested.

It wasn’t OCD that lead to her passing because if you would expect her to keep a clean handwritten organizer then it would be the contrary because her calendar and to do list is all over the place, she admitted loving all the notes and mess because it is a sign of a life well lived and it is the same reason why she didn’t understand a clean rubber shoes.

Ideas flowed through her mind as air is easily available for men to breathe. She can fill pages of her random thoughts but mostly about philosophy especially what she knew for sure or almost believed so that is close to sure. That is another quality that we love about her, she speaks the truth and lived with integrity.

She lived her life without regrets. She thrived everyday. She had forgiven everyone especially herself. She touched our lives as she always said: “I care for you in the best way I knew how.” And it was indeed enough.

It will always be a joy to remember her, to have met her, and an example of a person who came and left this world better than she found it. Her endeavors with all new borns to be loved is remarkable. No baby is ever to be born with questioned dignity and perfection. She made us see that we are whole, complete, enough.

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[1: 1,856 of 10,000] Not Aiming For Happiness All The Time, Not Anymore

In Article on January 10, 2017 at 6:13 AM

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If I choose to, I know that I can be happy all the time, but the truth is happiness is not the ultimate goal in life. It’s not because I will now entertain the opposite of to be unhappy but I just finally accepted that there are important moments in life in which “being happy” is not the right emotion.

As a healthy human being I need to grief, to be calm (not beaming with fake smile) and accept circumstance that is out of my control, or be angry and passionate to defend what’s not right.

If I am to be consistent of what I will do in life, then I believe I would exercise the following:

  1. Love – Unleash the love that I am made of and recognize the love of others expressed in their own special way as I do too.
  2. Unique – It is easier to live with others when I find a connection of what we authentically like in common but I also have to accept that no matter how I would insist, each has its own path, a unique calling I may possibly never understand.
  3. Pain – I will get hurt and whether it was a divine plan, divine intervention, or a product of my error, it will teach me a lesson to get better. It is not easy but it is not impossible to heal.
  4. Growth – What is life without growth? It is going to be a sad boring repetitive life like a zombie existing but no longer productively contributing to make the world better than it was found. To watch myself bloom is beautiful.
  5. Accomplish – To challenge myself in setting goals of learning new skills and traverse the uncomfortable and commit to complete a project or abandon when the pure wisdom agrees not because of fear.
  6. Relationship – Unless it is meaningful then move on to find where I could have a meaningful relationship with somebody. I will never be able to live alone, I need to connect with people, otherwise it will be lonely and I die young.
  7. Attitude – Positive attitude doesn’t necessarily mean being happy, I believe it is being hopeful and not a downer that shoots down the good vibe.
  8. Intention – What I personally intent is what matters and I aim that it will always be good and not undermine another for my benefit.
  9. Acceptance – To say yes that not all things are under my control and it is okay and let life be.
  10. Grateful – There are so many miracles that happen all the time, the blessings are pouring in, the bare fact that I am breathing and woke up this morning, I am a hero of my own story and I have a journey to take on.

[1: 1,787 of 10,000] The Greatest Gift You Can Give To The World Seems Selfish But It’s Not

In Article on October 30, 2016 at 11:30 PM

The greatest gift that you can give to the world seems selfish but it’s really not because the answer is doing what you love, what makes you feel alive, and what you know in your soul is right, despite the fears, the doubts, and all the challenges that hinder you to pursue it and live it.

Do what you LOVE

I am not simply calling it your passion, it’s not necessarily what everybody thinks is obvious, but it is something that gives you joy, to still have the energy to pour even if you think you’ve depleted all the ounce of will power from your body, because it is your endowed calling or having to live a purposeful life.

It could be this journey for this season, another path for another time, but always it makes you feel alive. Even without knowing, you invite people to thank you for just living your life with love, and even without intending, you are making the world better than you found it.

Without honoring the call, you lose the appetite to get up in the morning, you speak without substance, you breathe without jubilance, and it doesn’t only harm you but it radiates sadness into the world. So stop! I invite you to live your dream without buts, the excuse of when it’s the right time, because the right time will always be keep moving towards it every single day, baby steps as it may be but you got to accomplish one baby step at a time, until you’ve reached it.

Unfold the dream that was planted into your soul, realize and live it. Go on, it’s in there, you don’t need to live a life full of hate, sadness, resentment, judgment, because when you’re happy everyday, you open your heart to love others and everything around you. Solutions emerge instead of more problems to solve; compassion and forgiveness are exercised and positive vibe spreads, roots, and stays to let another love blooms and breed.

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[1: 1,718 of 10,000] What I Know For Sure Right Now

In Journal on June 10, 2016 at 12:39 AM

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With the new age on the bag and considering today’s life landscape, let me see a round-up of what I believe I now know, not necessarily the same as yours, but it would be interesting to see that we share the same. 😉

  1. Occurence of depressed thoughts are exactly a good reason to self-reboot meaning get good ample sleep everyday, take a vacation without thinking about work, laugh, connect with people by starting with family, friends, loved ones, and then extend further by serving the community. I need to replenish myself with love so I can share it to others, which in turn comes back as love to me again, it just grows bigger and bigger.
  2. Be responsible to always learn new things, to honour my word, to accomplish what I’ve started, and to them with kindness and passionate desire out of love.
  3. Know who am I serving and what for. Work is great but sometimes it gets boring, I feel that I am not appreciated and yet I am not always gracious to accept compliments; so I go back to the basic, I serve because it helps for the greater good and when I do my “best” I honour the gifts that God has given me to utilise as it turned out it will eventually give me fulfillment and advance my skills and growth as a human being.
  4. So what if I don’t succeed when I try? It is a lot more dangerous to be falling into being fearful all the time that hinders me to take action, so my thinking is failing shows what way doesn’t lead to success, so I try again.
  5. I am a procrastinator so I have to discipline myself not to move to another task unless I am done. Like while I’m typing this post, I shouldn’t be checking my social media accounts.
  6. When social media which is the source of instant gratification through likes from connections don’t even pleasure you anymore, it is probably time to either read a new book, listen to podcast, or watch insightful videos like Ted Talks.
  7. Surround myself amongts great people not just intellectually but with kind and generous human beings.
  8. Travel and do something that shakes you.
  9. Stay positive, be grateful, be responsible of my thoughts, and leave this world better than I found it by thinking more than just my own well-being.
  10. If you know love, you’ve met God.

[1: 1,708 of 10,000] Everybody Needs Validation

In Article on May 26, 2016 at 12:36 AM

Oprah Winfrey (I just have to add, I adore her) shared that everyone needs validation, whether victims of violence, celebrities including Beyonce, or just about any regular folks. She said, “What we do and what we say, and who we are matters. We want to be validated. Do you see? What I say mean anything to you? Do I matter to you?”

I try to wrap my head around it, depending on certain circumstances, I do ask for validation. Do I look good? Did I do a great job? Especially finding the opinion of the people who I consider that mattered to me, who’s decision I do respect, and so the rest are just bubbles that I don’t care or maybe I don’t sense the authenticity.

Yes sometimes, it doesn’t bother me if they like what I do especially if I know that it’s part of my obligation. I met a man that whenever I thank him for accomplishing a good work, he said it’s my job to do. I wonder, in those times that I don’t care, is it because I am not attached with the effect, I don’t need to be patronised, or am I too busy to pause and appreciate the accolade?

You and I matter, that’s for sure. May we always be heard and seen. May we find the right ways to live and truly matter to be living greater than ourselves.

You and I matter

 

[1: 1,700 of 10,000] The Simplest Answer For A Man’s Purpose

In Journal on April 29, 2016 at 12:44 AM

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I am being haunted to seek for answers to these questions again: What is my purpose in this world? Is it really leaving a legacy and for what good reason other than the selfish self preservation?

When I am so deep into my own selfish thoughts, I do lose track of what is important. It dawned on me that it can be very plain, very simple. I can start with “What can I do to leave this world a little better than I found it?”

A simple, smart, and truly a glorious act could be the beginning. Some things can’t be done until somebody proved it could be, and then another one who does it better. Change, either in action or perspective, is inevitable with a matter of effort, perseverance, and commitment.

May we have the courage to give a piece of our love to the world. Let us have the audacity to look on where we can use our gifts, our lives, our time to a good use to make this world better than we found it.

[1: 1,688 of 10,000] What Are Your Emotional Investments?

In Article on February 13, 2016 at 9:42 AM

 

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I realised that I was unhappy few months back and then I finally learn from someone that I failed to invest time and effort to establish good relationship with my family and friends or building new relationship intentionally.

All I have to do is pick-up the phone, send out messages, plan a get together, and make the intentions and efforts to connect with others to have a meaningful long-lasting relationship that is based on love, growth, discovering life’s delight and creating memories.

It has always been up to me to make the investment, to take the initiative, and make the leap that unless I take action to keep the great communication flowing. I’m glad it wasn’t too late and to keep confining myself to loneliness and being alone; I am grateful.

Don’t be lazy and shy, go on, make the move to start something with your family, friends, and neighbors. Have fun! 🙂

[1: 1,682 of 10,000] This Is Saving Me From Procrastinating

In Article on February 4, 2016 at 6:11 AM

I am a bonafide procrastinator and the obvious signs are –

  1. I want things to be perfect so it takes time for me to decide and finish.
  2. I have minor OCD, I enjoy putting the same clothes hangers together, or my work desk are arranged in a certain way, almost aligned.
  3. I say that I will deal with this tomorrow.
  4. I froze for inaction and wasted the time that if I have done it I could have been tired and yet I completed the task.
  5. I make a bargain excuse, if the circumstance is this, I’ll just wait for this, and then I’ll finish.
  6. I’ll lay down on the sofa or bed, stretch, take a quick power nap, until I fall sleep all together and later feel bad that I wasn’t very responsible.
  7. I didn’t make the call to finalise. I was afraid that I embarass myself for not being eloquent and elicit that answer that I want.
  8. I find excuse that let me just finish this one t.v. show or just this one movie and then I end up finishing two to five. Yay! And then it’s wee hours and I didn’t get enough sleep.

Above are my perfect examples what are causing me not to finish things.

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The most powerful saving grace for me so far is practicing to outgrow my weakness No. 5. I no longer wait for the circumstance to get better, I simply react with the best way I can. No complains. No big expectations but knowing that I am enjoying what I do and the reward that I will finish. I continue to remain grateful, smiling, and happy that I have a purpose, I am doing something. At the end, I no longer feel guilty. Then if I am really tired, I rest. I eat. I pray. I stop indulging with just one task that are not helpful for a long time like watching television or even a show that I have seen before or doesn’t really teach me or insipire me; I find time to diversify and read books instead. Or come here and blog something sensible I hope. 🙂

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[1: 1,575 of 10,000] Getting These Three Lessons Make My Life More Than OK

In Journal on August 31, 2015 at 10:53 AM

Friends

The greatest three lessons I’ve learned so far that is making my life more than just OK but perfectly and continuously poured with love, peace, and joy –

First – God’s love is so huge, immeasurable, yet He knows the special needs of each individual in the world.

That is how powerful God is! There are moments that I feel like I needed a special attention because in my opinion I have a very special need, everybody at some points wants to feel special, and because our God is so mighty, He is capable of giving just that if I ask, if I communicate.

God is never tired to wait for me and see me grow in baby steps every day. If I humble myself and seek for His guidance, He reveal His love and the Holy Spirit helps me with utmost love and care.

Second – I must have good intentions for others all the time and be grateful for the good I see in them.

The moment I start thinking the wrong path, I don’t feel good inside. I feel like an arrogant person who don’t want to receive the miracle of God. Whatever I wish on others, I wish for myself, so why would I want to wish myself bad things.

It’s like throwing a knife above my head, up in the air, hoping it hit the person who’s upsetting me but the law of gravity clearly demonstrates that it will come back down and hit ME! Once a knife hits me, I will bleed and it’s not the perfect way to live. I would rather throw good wishes or it’s like throwing confettis in the air where it touches the person I wished, it touches somebody else around, and it touches me; now that’s magical.

Third – I exist to enjoy life, create what I love with my best, and share.

I am capable to do what I am supposed to do, it will be definitely something I love and it will definitely make someone’s life better; but the real challenge is I have to accept the responsibility and actually do something. I used to question what is my purpose in life and since I didn’t stop moving forward, I continue appreciating life as it unfolds, then I get glimpses of where I should be headed. Where am I especially if I find peace within me is exactly where I am supposed to be and I got to give my absolute best.

With these three lessons I am immensely grateful.