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[1: 1,984 of 10,000] Do You Embody Your Given Name?

In Article on April 3, 2020 at 3:06 AM
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She looks like a Blair or a Paris but yet again she can decide who she ever wanted to be!

The human was tasked by God to give everything a name. I give my cars and stuff toys names that is how much I was taking the task seriously.

I grew up with the notion that it is wise to choose the name of a child because it will play a significant role in his life. When I was young, I simply understood that the name will set the tone for his life; now that I’m a grown-up (evidence: I pay my own rent) my sophisticated take is it catapults a person to use the power of its name to reach his full potential.

I like finding the meaning of names. In the real world, I do have two given names and I was used to using the first one and mostly ignores the second. With the current changes in my life with these big shifts, it occurred to me to look up my other name’s meaning. Apparently, it’s joy (English), strong (French), and love (Welsh and American). These three are very strong pull of what am trying to be and all along all I got to do is be it.

I feel the calling to love unconditionally and truly knowing what ‘unconditional’ means, to stay strong while I let the divine timing plays until I finally rendezvous with my romantic partner, and whenever moments of my life I must remain joyful. I never have the strong desire to get married (as Amy Schumer described marriage, involving the government to a union) and yet here I am ready to let The One into my life.

Do you know the meaning of your name? How is it reflecting in your real life?

Photo by Marvin Lewis on Unsplash

 

[1: 1,976 of 10,000] The Greatest Positive Distraction In Life

In Article on February 7, 2020 at 6:33 AM

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If I am weary waiting for a man to send me a message, agitating for a someone or something to happen… I have to push myself to do a “positive” distraction to not lose my mind.

Before I go for the good distraction, I should confess my current rabbit hole mood and that’s watching Tarot Card reading for my horoscope in YouTube, geez too excited to find out about the future! Or starting a whole new series to watch in Netflix, it’s a whole new commitment so I better check how many episodes and how long each episode is.

Now the good stuff, there’s one key ingredient of what’s in the greatest distraction and it should be doing something that I love or similar to what am truly passionate about. Anything that brings me joy without guilt but peace are key. For instance, writing a blog, reading a helpful book for my learning or growth or entertainment, or going out to connect with other people. These distractions make me forget time and draws me into a flow.

What’s your positive distraction?

Photo by Fabrizio Verrecchia on Unsplash

[1: 1,974 of 10,000] I Signed Up For Tinder, Again

In Article on February 1, 2020 at 7:08 PM

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Last December 15, 2019, for the third time, I signed up for Tinder. Again, not because I was out of a relationship, but because I was scared to be in one. If I am not playing my card right, I’ll be the female version of the 40-year-old virgin this year.

First time I signed up in Dubai years ago, I didn’t like the choices of men, so after a day, I deleted the account. The second time I signed up in Dubai, I saw someone I knew, so without a second thought, I immediately deleted my account. Now, the third time and sign up while I was in Copenhagen for vacation, I am finally giving love a chance and determined to let love simmer into my life. Also, Copenhagen is filled with good looking people who have great taste in creating artful things, I thought if I will look for a mate, it’s a place that’s a viable place with a great array of choices. Despite seeing two people I knew in the dating app when back home in Dubai, it wasn’t enough to scare me this time and so I hold on.

After 1 month, I stumble upon a guy that is potentially I want to love. Big word, right? He makes me laugh, he knows how to use the proper punctuation marks (oh I can’t emphasize enough how satisfying that is), and he answers all questions when we chat. It’s a pickle that there are that 5,598 kilometers distance between us but it’s just one plane ticket away if we really think it’s worth giving this possible connection a chance. The best part of all is he calms me down, I am a worrier and overthink a lot of things and him being attentive, insightful, and never fails to respond to my message… I mean I can honestly admit that I’m starting to like him. Will he be the reason why I would finally be deleting my Tinder account for good? I hope! xx

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[1: 1,973 of 10,000] Collaborating With My Mind

In Article on January 21, 2020 at 6:47 AM

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I have an AHA moment after listening to therapist Marisa Peer’s TEDxKCS talk called To reach beyond your limits by training your mind. It’s mind-blowing and let me break it down for you, one because I need to ingrain it in my mind so I can get what I want and two because you can use it to your favor.

The mind wants 4 things and if I know this then I can hack it into my advantage. My mind is my intellect and the monkey that occupies my wild imaginations, the incessant thought that creates scenes after scenes in my head and the worst part is when I even fall to believe a lie.

1: My mind does exactly what it thinks I want in my best interest. Hack: I have to be very clear to tell my mind what I really want. If I want to become a best-selling author, then I have to tell my mind that I am a best-selling author and write to finish the book. If I’m in the zone, I also attract the right people into my orbit. (Side note: I’m loving the word ‘orbit’ lately!)

2: My mind is hard-wired to move me towards pleasure and avoiding pain. Any successful endeavor requires putting work. The only time it doesn’t feel like hard work is if I like what I’m doing, but the reality is there’s work to be done. Hack: Condition myself to link that I have massive pleasure doing hard work. It feels awful to exercise but it’s the only way for my muscles to get healthy so I got to enjoy while exercising.

3: My mind response to 2 things that affect my feelings, (a) what I picture in my head and (b) the words that I say to myself. Hack: Picture that I am doing it and use words that are positive to me. Stop with the low vibration thoughts. I have a brilliant mind and I better use it positively.

4.  My mind is programmed to what’s familiar. Hack: Make the unfamiliar familiar especially my self-beliefs. Familiarize myself to love my self, my work, my life and are grateful to everything that’s happening to me. Unfamiliarize me from procrastination and not good enough thoughts, move those words out of my vocabulary.

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[1: 1,951 of 10,000] The 70th Emmy Introduced Hannah Gadsby To Me

In Article on September 20, 2018 at 11:46 PM

I didn’t know Hannah Gadsby until I’ve seen the 70th Primetime Emmy Awards when she presented the Outstanding Directing for a Drama Series. It was an under 2 minutes exposure and yet she caught my interest.

There is something about her, I didn’t really like the hosts for the Emmy this year, I thought it wasn’t funny and engaging enough, and then Hannah came out and she was fresh and I am intrigued. I think she’s cute, I love her curves, her delivery and what she smartly delivered. I felt her independence and confidence.

I search more about her until it leads me to watch her Netflix special called Nanette. She is very witty, she was making me laugh, but in between bits there are vulnerable revelations, and by the latter part of the special I was sobbing. I was feeling her pain and I don’t like it that she was overpowered and violated by men.
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She was beaten in public and no one helped her. It was the first thing that shook me. I vow that when I see something wrong in my proximity, I will speak up and act. It’s not right to not protect somebody. Oh God, bless her. Thank you Hannah for your bravery to speak up and share your story. Thank you for showing your anger and inviting us to face the reality.

Unless everybody is fine, no one is fine but this is hard to accomplish over night. I’ll do what I can control, I will better myself to give me comfort that I am making use of my life, and I will always recognize my worth and that no one can intimidate me.

I have been inappropriately touch (swiftly their hands ran my booty) by strangers in a crowd twice in the past and I know that it those moments, I wasn’t fighting back. I let it go to not cause a scene, and now I wonder, should I searched for the predator so they will stop their malicious actions? The last time, it even happened inside a church, and I remembered feeling flustered and wants to burst out to cry. Men are physically stronger than women, that’s the advantage that they have and that makes it easier to take advantage of the weaker ones. I pray that may we use our strengths for goodness.

[1: 1,903 of 10,000] My Motivation Booster

In Article on March 3, 2018 at 2:21 AM

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I truly appreciate that my effective motivation booster is to remind myself that I need to “enjoy”. Enjoy was defined by Merriam-Webster as to take pleasure or satisfaction in and that is really a good way to make living worth it.

Whenever I feel stressed and pressured about work, I remind myself to pause and ask I must enjoy this and if I don’t feel the fun what can I do to be it so? Even during blogging, I have the two word reminder the moment I start to write and that is “enjoy writing”. Part of my routine about the enjoyment route is to see what is comedic about a horrible mistakes that I made, not that I am not sorry and have not learned my lesson, but my mind does this trick that let me endure suffering with the error I made in video loop in my head, so instead of dwelling on that I allow to make fun of myself to lighten up my mood and can proceed to try again or go do another work.

I am a serious person and I like to concentrate on the things that I do so enjoying once work never let me lose sight of my focus for an excellent work but instead it helps out to give me a boost and can tap in my persistence.

A typical day with a positive aura coupled with smile allowed me to received compliments. Based from true experience, even someone else’s hyperness who is exemplary in enjoying a great day rubbed off on me; and I hope this post will give you the same jolt of goodness to have a great day today and every day.

We cannot escape challenges and devasting circumstances that sometimes necessary for our crucial growth but we have the option to still find the glistening optimism and enjoyment.

[1: 1,902 of 10,000] Time Was My Kryptonite

In Article on February 17, 2018 at 3:36 PM

Kryptonite

My ego, the part of me that can constantly tell a story that I’m the best and worst – all for the sake to operate from fear instead of love, has obsession about time or age and it is dilapidating.

Some of my scared ego-talks:

  • I want to be the youngest member of this club because I am special.
  • I need to get that thing to elevate my status now.
  • I am too old to become famously rich.
  • I got white hairs… how do I expect to get a husband and raise children?
  • 38 and still an employee? (even hearing this in a snotty remark)
  • It will take time to learn and become an expert, how will I do school ‘again’ and still work to be a responsible adult and practical?
  • Your peers have achieved so much in their career (company owner / VPs) while you are still a manager.
  • You’re so slow.
  • What is the point of doing great? Are you intending to leave a legacy, but wait who do you think you are who is worth leaving a legacy? You are going to die one day, so again, what is the point of all these hard works?

So how do I calm my fearful ego that is a part of me and that I lovingly call my intellect that needs a leader?

  • I meditate and pray to calm my nerves. I don’t always get the answers when I meditate and pray, maybe I am not there yet, but the fact that I could become calm and not go to panic mode at all times that I even lose proper sleeps because I was paralyzed with the amount of goals I want to immediately achieve.
  • I forgive myself that I have so much eagerness and not capable to move a mountain yet. And then I do what I can that leads to my ultimate goal. It doesn’t matter if it takes time to learn; so instead I lean on my incremental growth every day.
  • Choose one battle at a time. Choose a team to help if it’s the additional ingredient of success. If I die before I achieve everything, I will be fine without regrets because I was able to accomplished some things.
  • Treat my journey as mine and not to compare myself with others. My own growth is my business and the key is my life is rooted with good intentions.
  • I enjoy the journey and celebrate the destination; and then I do it all over again with a new pursuit. If I wake up every morning, it means I have this moment to enjoy life, if a day turned out to be excruciating than I have hoped for, I could go to bed, release the past, and I will wake up the next morning again to have another clean slate.

What is your kryptonite and how do you overcome it?

[1: 1,899 of 10,000] Listen But Don’t Always Believe

In Article on October 8, 2017 at 11:09 PM

Talking Mind

Is your mind kept giving talks? Listen but don’t always believe.

I like to believe though that our mind is really not capable to grasp our willpower that we can do more… like 40% more than what our mind originally believed.

I hear my personal trainers in the gym said that you can do more, challenge yourself more, the limitation is all in the mind, but the body can surely exert more effort. Maybe except the time when my mind was so determined I could do the stepping on a box, but my knee got a mind of its own that I fell down. I laugh myself big time, it was really hilarious, but I know that I just have to strengthen my muscles and be patient. Take good night sleeps and eat right.

Success takes time and it is something worth learning at this time where everything is demanded to be instant.

[1: 1,898 of 10,000] Who You Know Matters

In Article on October 7, 2017 at 12:23 PM
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Photo taken during my visit in Stockholm last September (2017) where artist Mattias Norström bent a flag pole in front of Kulturhuset (The House of Culture).

Rules made by men can be bent because human are vulnerable, subjective and flexible. Who you know matters that can help you with just about anything.

I have a prickly habit that following the rules is a must otherwise I fear there would be chaos; and yet winners take courage to bend the rules to make a statement, to grow, or to achieve a dream.

Knowing someone is like winning a Willy Wonka ticket to get in the chocolate factory; but don’t be fooled, it is our talent that keeps us in the desired circle, takes growth to stay relevant, takes perseverance to be wealthy, and finally takes surrender to live in peace.

[1: 1,894 of 10,000] Lucky You

In Article on September 16, 2017 at 11:54 PM

Is there such thing that somebody is luckier than ourselves?

Most of us learned to like what we don’t have. What we do not posses seemed exciting, coveted! It is so alluring that we even lose a piece of our dignity, sanity.

We do need to examine what is it that we wanted, needed. Discern whether the choice to be contented or the drive  to thrive is the next action to take.

The Roman philosopher Seneca said, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” It is true, it’s like having insurance, you don’t need it until you need. It takes hours of preparation of even not knowing how exactly will it be used until that moment present itself and it is for us to take it.

Are you really unlucky? Or have you not been preparing? Or didn’t you seize the moment?