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[1: 1,951 of 10,000] The 70th Emmy Introduced Hannah Gadsby To Me

In Article on September 20, 2018 at 11:46 PM

I didn’t know Hannah Gadsby until I’ve seen the 70th Primetime Emmy Awards when she presented the Outstanding Directing for a Drama Series. It was an under 2 minutes exposure and yet she caught my interest.

There is something about her, I didn’t really like the hosts for the Emmy this year, I thought it wasn’t funny and engaging enough, and then Hannah came out and she was fresh and I am intrigued. I think she’s cute, I love her curves, her delivery and what she smartly delivered. I felt her independence and confidence.

I search more about her until it leads me to watch her Netflix special called Nanette. She is very witty, she was making me laugh, but in between bits there are vulnerable revelations, and by the latter part of the special I was sobbing. I was feeling her pain and I don’t like it that she was overpowered and violated by men.
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She was beaten in public and no one helped her. It was the first thing that shook me. I vow that when I see something wrong in my proximity, I will speak up and act. It’s not right to not protect somebody. Oh God, bless her. Thank you Hannah for your bravery to speak up and share your story. Thank you for showing your anger and inviting us to face the reality.

Unless everybody is fine, no one is fine but this is hard to accomplish over night. I’ll do what I can control, I will better myself to give me comfort that I am making use of my life, and I will always recognize my worth and that no one can intimidate me.

I have been inappropriately touch (swiftly their hands ran my booty) by strangers in a crowd twice in the past and I know that it those moments, I wasn’t fighting back. I let it go to not cause a scene, and now I wonder, should I searched for the predator so they will stop their malicious actions? The last time, it even happened inside a church, and I remembered feeling flustered and wants to burst out to cry. Men are physically stronger than women, that’s the advantage that they have and that makes it easier to take advantage of the weaker ones. I pray that may we use our strengths for goodness.

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[1: 1,903 of 10,000] My Motivation Booster

In Article on March 3, 2018 at 2:21 AM

Enjoy

I truly appreciate that my effective motivation booster is to remind myself that I need to “enjoy”. Enjoy was defined by Merriam-Webster as to take pleasure or satisfaction in and that is really a good way to make living worth it.

Whenever I feel stressed and pressured about work, I remind myself to pause and ask I must enjoy this and if I don’t feel the fun what can I do to be it so? Even during blogging, I have the two word reminder the moment I start to write and that is “enjoy writing”. Part of my routine about the enjoyment route is to see what is comedic about a horrible mistakes that I made, not that I am not sorry and have not learned my lesson, but my mind does this trick that let me endure suffering with the error I made in video loop in my head, so instead of dwelling on that I allow to make fun of myself to lighten up my mood and can proceed to try again or go do another work.

I am a serious person and I like to concentrate on the things that I do so enjoying once work never let me lose sight of my focus for an excellent work but instead it helps out to give me a boost and can tap in my persistence.

A typical day with a positive aura coupled with smile allowed me to received compliments. Based from true experience, even someone else’s hyperness who is exemplary in enjoying a great day rubbed off on me; and I hope this post will give you the same jolt of goodness to have a great day today and every day.

We cannot escape challenges and devasting circumstances that sometimes necessary for our crucial growth but we have the option to still find the glistening optimism and enjoyment.

[1: 1,902 of 10,000] Time Was My Kryptonite

In Article on February 17, 2018 at 3:36 PM

Kryptonite

My ego, the part of me that can constantly tell a story that I’m the best and worst – all for the sake to operate from fear instead of love, has obsession about time or age and it is dilapidating.

Some of my scared ego-talks:

  • I want to be the youngest member of this club because I am special.
  • I need to get that thing to elevate my status now.
  • I am too old to become famously rich.
  • I got white hairs… how do I expect to get a husband and raise children?
  • 38 and still an employee? (even hearing this in a snotty remark)
  • It will take time to learn and become an expert, how will I do school ‘again’ and still work to be a responsible adult and practical?
  • Your peers have achieved so much in their career (company owner / VPs) while you are still a manager.
  • You’re so slow.
  • What is the point of doing great? Are you intending to leave a legacy, but wait who do you think you are who is worth leaving a legacy? You are going to die one day, so again, what is the point of all these hard works?

So how do I calm my fearful ego that is a part of me and that I lovingly call my intellect that needs a leader?

  • I meditate and pray to calm my nerves. I don’t always get the answers when I meditate and pray, maybe I am not there yet, but the fact that I could become calm and not go to panic mode at all times that I even lose proper sleeps because I was paralyzed with the amount of goals I want to immediately achieve.
  • I forgive myself that I have so much eagerness and not capable to move a mountain yet. And then I do what I can that leads to my ultimate goal. It doesn’t matter if it takes time to learn; so instead I lean on my incremental growth every day.
  • Choose one battle at a time. Choose a team to help if it’s the additional ingredient of success. If I die before I achieve everything, I will be fine without regrets because I was able to accomplished some things.
  • Treat my journey as mine and not to compare myself with others. My own growth is my business and the key is my life is rooted with good intentions.
  • I enjoy the journey and celebrate the destination; and then I do it all over again with a new pursuit. If I wake up every morning, it means I have this moment to enjoy life, if a day turned out to be excruciating than I have hoped for, I could go to bed, release the past, and I will wake up the next morning again to have another clean slate.

What is your kryptonite and how do you overcome it?

[1: 1,899 of 10,000] Listen But Don’t Always Believe

In Article on October 8, 2017 at 11:09 PM

Talking Mind

Is your mind kept giving talks? Listen but don’t always believe.

I like to believe though that our mind is really not capable to grasp our willpower that we can do more… like 40% more than what our mind originally believed.

I hear my personal trainers in the gym said that you can do more, challenge yourself more, the limitation is all in the mind, but the body can surely exert more effort. Maybe except the time when my mind was so determined I could do the stepping on a box, but my knee got a mind of its own that I fell down. I laugh myself big time, it was really hilarious, but I know that I just have to strengthen my muscles and be patient. Take good night sleeps and eat right.

Success takes time and it is something worth learning at this time where everything is demanded to be instant.

[1: 1,898 of 10,000] Who You Know Matters

In Article on October 7, 2017 at 12:23 PM
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Photo taken during my visit in Stockholm last September (2017) where artist Mattias Norström bent a flag pole in front of Kulturhuset (The House of Culture).

Rules made by men can be bent because human are vulnerable, subjective and flexible. Who you know matters that can help you with just about anything.

I have a prickly habit that following the rules is a must otherwise I fear there would be chaos; and yet winners take courage to bend the rules to make a statement, to grow, or to achieve a dream.

Knowing someone is like winning a Willy Wonka ticket to get in the chocolate factory; but don’t be fooled, it is our talent that keeps us in the desired circle, takes growth to stay relevant, takes perseverance to be wealthy, and finally takes surrender to live in peace.

[1: 1,894 of 10,000] Lucky You

In Article on September 16, 2017 at 11:54 PM

Is there such thing that somebody is luckier than ourselves?

Most of us learned to like what we don’t have. What we do not posses seemed exciting, coveted! It is so alluring that we even lose a piece of our dignity, sanity.

We do need to examine what is it that we wanted, needed. Discern whether the choice to be contented or the drive  to thrive is the next action to take.

The Roman philosopher Seneca said, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” It is true, it’s like having insurance, you don’t need it until you need. It takes hours of preparation of even not knowing how exactly will it be used until that moment present itself and it is for us to take it.

Are you really unlucky? Or have you not been preparing? Or didn’t you seize the moment?

 

[1: 1,892 of 10,000] Fear Emerging

In Article on August 26, 2017 at 11:28 PM

My sister said that we are watching a horror movie and she played “The Green Infierno”. I really don’t know what kind of horror will I expect then it started, the cannibalism that almost halt my heart from beating.

The Green Infierno

The leader of the tribe in this scene was going to nibble a fresh eyeball newly harvested from a screaming live man.

My mind was completely disturbed because my logical mind knew it could really happen. It made question my desire of eating meat. It build a fear not to travel in unknown places.

It was gruesome and I couldn’t even imagine myself eating another person. I experienced smelling a person burning, when we have cremated the remains of my mother,  it smells like a meat being barbecued but never at the point I will imagine that it will be tasty.

I hope that we will be kinder with one another. May we not bring suffering to another person either physically or even in other ways like verbal or emotional abuse. May we progress to socially live with others in a respectable way.

[1: 1,891 of 10,000] Taste of Life

In Article on August 11, 2017 at 1:12 AM

Do you really find the world a dreaded place? You failed a few times but don’t forget that you’ve won too. Why are you so afraid living in the present and in doing so you hold on too tight of the past and weary about the future?

You said you are smart. You believed you know love. You learned that mistakes and pains were part of the tools to gain wisdom and make better decisions. Actions are key to feel the grit of life.

Why would you give up life after tasting it? Some people begged for another day, another chance, immortality even; because they have found what is worth living for. Don’t tell me you have not discovered the meaning worth living for!

I will let you in to a secret, what is your preference? Surely you will like one genre of a television series, are you “Suits,” or “Breaking Bad,” or “House of Cards,” or “The Middle,” or “Game of Thrones” watcher? Then list some more of matters that interest you, and in those you will find what you truly care for. When you are brave and honest enough, you will enjoy the entirety of life.

[1: 1,877 of 10,000] What Was Your Reason God?

In Article on April 29, 2017 at 1:08 AM

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Two men that I respect for their spiritual belief belonging from two completely different countries but both love God answered these line of questions with identical answer. If God is so loving and would only want the best for mankind, His very own creation, then why are there so many sufferings? Why do bad things happen to good people? Their answer is…

“I don’t know.”

It is true that God works in pretty mysterious ways. I often wonder why do Father rape their own daughters? Why do criminals due to their mental illness exist to havoc emotional and physical pain to the people around them and don’t even realize that they do? Why do God let the simple meeting the basic needs of food and clean water being so difficult? Where is God?

I also don’t know…

  • But I got reminded that human race carried a curse when Adam and Eve have eaten the forbidden fruit in the garden of Eden.
  • I also have faith that God never stopped loving men and send miracles despite the outer suffering that men’s naked eyes could see but not for the intellect to possibly comprehend and grasp.
  • God sent His only begotten son Jesus to be the way, the truth, and the life for men. He died for men’s sins for a beautiful and promising eternal life.

It does puzzle me that if heaven is all beautiful, why are men need to be on Earth to endure so many challenges that breaks the hearts and loan the souls?

  • “Heaven is in our midst,” those words lead me to not rush and crave for the afterlife but to enjoy peace in the present. Peace is not the absence of distraction but peace within me directly connecting with the almighty.
  • Finally, I believe that through battling my challenges, I become stronger. When I suffer, I develop empathy and would be able to be kinder to the others who suffer the same. And when I am truly tuned in, I could make a difference to make this world better than I found it. That’s just me; but what if the thinking spreads to every single one on Earth, it’ll be revolutionary.

The pain is part of the hero’s journey despite pain doesn’t stop with just one. Just like a rough diamond is not brilliant until it goes through some ridiculous amount of meticulous cutting and grinding.

Photo source: The New Yorker